“He said he’d be at the game and never showed up.” ” She left out the milk again and now it’s all spoiled.” “They didn’t call back so we left without them and now they are mad.”

Just like a ball rolls down hill due to gravity , we tend to blame others rather than look at ourselves. After all, he didn’t call back or she did forget to do what she said she’d do etc etc. Still, this leaves out other factors such as whether or not our reaction is justified. Could our original demands have been unreasonable or can we also be partially (or entirely) at fault. Read the rest of this entry »

When was the last time you took a day off from work to take care of yourself? Taking a personal day can be very rejuvenating for your spirit and enable you to be in a less crowded environment to relax than during the weekend bustle when everyone is off. It’s easier to not deal with lines when you want a day for yourself by using a week day.

Make a list of things you’ve been wanting to do for a long time . Don’t put any filter on your mind but just let it run wild . It can be driving to an apple orchard to pick a bucket of apples, spending the whole day at the hair salon getting highlights and the works, taking out the fishing rod and driving to a remote location or calling an old college buddy to go snorkeling like the old days. Read the rest of this entry »

Are the specific situations that seem to come to you over and over again undesirable? Do you wonder why this is happening? Our mindset is very powerful. If there is some feeling inside of you that you don’t deserve happiness or success, then this can manifest itself in terms of non-abundance with money, relationship joy and other areas of your life.

You may find you keep getting old, used cars and rent run down apartments etc. This mentality can have a lot to do with your own view of yourself as well as your outlook about money. It’s helpful to try to examine your own views. Is having money wrong
or being too materialistic? Are you trying to not draw attention to yourself by having little or nothing? Is there an embarrasment about success? Read the rest of this entry »

Our culture values multitasking, but many people are not able to do this. Perhaps multitasking is over-rated. When you watch a teenager doing homework, having several IM windows opened, using a cell phone and clicking at war of warcraft does it look productive? Perhaps this is why many students do homework from 3-10 pm daily that could be done from 3-5 if there were no other tasks done simultaneously.

Aside from questions of productivity, there are also questions about the quality of the attention. If you are answering e-mails while you are having a conversation, how good are the listening skills and attention you have in the conversation? Also how do you feel when you are multitasking? Do you feel split and stretched? Is it a peaceful feeling or one of being pulled in a few directions at once? Read the rest of this entry »

Life is stagnant without growth and that is true for personal development as well. We feel a resistance to changing our patterns, but sometimes we can see strong benefits for personal improvement and that is an excellent motivation.

For instance, you may feel that you can use some help with your communication skills. This can be related to presentations at work or being more articulate. Toastmasters is a wonderful group to assist you with this process. You can often find that there are members of your family hapy to hear you practice a presentation the night before. People like to give feedback. Read the rest of this entry »